Everything Happens for a Reason

Everything Happens For a Reason
Jen Lee

This week I’m twisting up a bit by sharing my personal voyage with y’all. I used to hate the phrase, “everything happens for a reason,” especially after a vehicle struck, and rejected me off my motorcycle on an interstate highway in Jacksonville, Florida back in 2009. As I sat upright on an open field (where I landed) I looked at my left opened fractured leg, and asked myself, “why did this happened to me?” I was very angry at the time as the amputation of my left leg had me questioned who I was, and if this was meant to be my destiny due to karma. The last thing I want to hear from anyone is that my motorcycle accident happened for a reason due to my karma (eyes rolled).



But according to Buddhist studies, karma is the law of moral causation. Buddha explained karma as, “All living beings have actions (Karma) as their own, their inheritance, their congenital cause, their kinsman, their refuge. It is Karma that differentiates beings into low and high states.” So what does this have to do with this week’s topic? Well, 8 years later after my motorcycle accident, as I prepared to fly home to visit my girlfriend Erica this week, I began to look back on how her and I got to this point. I was excited and anxious to see Erica because it has been a month since I saw her. Right before my move, and the 22-hour journey to Chicago, we had a serious conversation about her moving up to Chicago to be with me. We knew a long-distance relationship would be hard, but we both felt the same connection about wanting to be together.

It is a hard feeling to describe, but I guess the best way to enlighten your mindset is like falling in love with chocolate ice cream cake the first time you had it. (Clearly, I love food.) I met Erica in college when I was taking couple of classes at the University of Incarnate Word (UIW) in San Antonio, Texas. I was finishing up my rehabilitation for my amputated leg, and we both happened to be in the same class (religion & philosophy) together. I still remember the first time when I saw her as she was scrambling around left and right, searching for an open seat as she was walking into class late. I chuckled, and hoping I would grab her attention, I motioned that there was an open seat next to me. At the last second, she looked up, noticed my hand gesture, and began to walk towards my direction.

As she was walking slowly toward the open seat, I used my “imaginary power” by slowing down the time, watching her walking in slow motion in my head. I noticed her long, beautiful dark hair with her appealing dazzle brown eyes that would immediately draw your attention. Her sensual attractive mole above her lip reminded me of both Hollywood actresses Eva Mendez or Cindy Crawford. Her adorable dimple smile can brighten your day as she is a charm to be cute and sexy. As she finally sat down, I introduced myself to her as we became classmate acquaintances. We hung out a few times; from grabbing lunch together to attending some of her club league basketball games at school. We ended up connecting quite well. However, we both knew we would only go as far as being friends since we both were going separate paths. As the fall semester ended, I moved on to do bigger and better things with the military, and our communication slowly dissolved as she continued her education at UIW.

Fast forward to 6 years later, somehow the universe connected us when suddenly her snapchat screen name popped up on my cell phone.  It has been over 6 years since we spoke to one another, and I didn’t know what to expect as I’m assuming she may have forgotten who I was completely. So I decided to take a leap of faith, and added her on my snapchat contact, and surprisingly she added me back as well. We became acquaintances once again as we had a lot of catching up to do on our busy lives. A few weeks later, I took another shot by asking her to go to a waterpark with me, and she agreed.

I don’t know about you, but normally in situations like this, it can end up being a recipe for disaster. Especially if you haven’t been in touch with that person for over six years. But as I saw her walking toward my vehicle at the parking lot, it gave me a flashback of seeing her the first time as she entered the classroom. It was like falling in love with a chocolate ice cream cake all over again, and I knew at that moment (if I didn’t screw this up) we were meant to be together. As you get older, you will realize there are many unexplained phenomena that will happen across your lifetime.

What I mean by that is there are going to be situations where it’s simply going to happen because it was meant to be. The sign is right in front of you, and sometimes you must truly open your eyes to see it. The motorcycle accident brought me to San Antonio, Texas, and I would’ve never imagined I would end up dating a girl who met in college six years ago.  Even though Erica and I’ve only been dating 3 months, I believed it was karma that made us crossed paths with one another once again. I almost lost my life that day in Jacksonville, and I questioned the universe on why ‘this happened to me’. Well, I think I am finally closed to finding an answer as I’m about to embark on a new journey with my former college acquaintance, who now happens to be my beautiful girlfriend, Erica Cabrera. I’m beginning to believe everything happens for a reason. Maybe, simply, we should just expect the unexpected? Regardless what you think, cherish every moment because in the end it is up to you.



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